It's never a good time

Sometimes (often), I face a situation that I want to put off for 'the right' time' or 'when I feel like it'. I'm sure many people can relate to this.

When I reflect on the situations that make me feel like this, I realise that all of them are, in fact, things I actually don't want to do or will be uncomfortable somehow. The thing is I DON'T WANT TO DO THEM.


I have realised that I will NEVER feel like doing something I don't want to do. Have you?


Have you ever woke up in the morning and thought: "gosh, I really want to have an uncomfortable conversation with x about problems I have with my work/living arrangements/relationship/body"?
Or: "I really want to sacrifice doing something I enjoy so I can do something  have to do"?

It is never going to feel good to break bad news to someone. It is never going to be convenient to put aside your habitual routine and pleasures to do something you need to focus on right now. You're never going to 'feel like' confronting the big challenges in your life that you've put off, or making yourself vulnerable to another person or the world, putting yourself on the line.

The only way these things get done in my life is when I decide to carve out an opportunity for them - I make time, I discipline myself to focus on them, I initiate that scary conversation even though I am afraid. Oftentimes I have put these things off for a more 'convenient time', only to be forced into action when I realise that time is running out and I will never get an opportunity unless I make it happen.

So, the things you don't want to do, you need to remember to MAKE them happen, in spite of your resistance, because waiting for 'the right time' just wont cut it most of the time.


(P.S. I know sometimes you CAN 'feel like' doing the unpleasant things, but that is a chance event for most people and more usually, you never want to do them, and you could be waiting a looong while before you 'feel like' doing it)